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What’s your Personal Best?

Watching the Olympics, I’m inspired.

All these fantastic heroic athletes, pushing their own boundaries to be the best they can possibly be. To acheive their personal best, or even better… a World Record!

But what is your personal best? If there was a Freestyle Olympics… what category would you be competing, and winning in?

I think it is so important to acknowledge our own strengths and best qualities, and then identify our lifes true purpose. What are you good at? What are you passionate about? What were you put on this Earth to do? It is vital to realise and action this, not just for ourselves, but for everyone. As George Elliott once said, “It’s never too late to be what you might have been.”

Find whatever it is that makes you buzz, that fills you will excitement and inspiration – and do it. If you are not acting upon these passions now, it is never too late to start. Do not let life pass you by and then look back with regrets.

Chad Michael Murray quotes: “Our biggest regrets are not for the things we have done, but for the things we haven’t done”.

Act now. Be the best you possibly can. Your Country needs you. You need you.

Love and Blessings,

Fairy GodMuma xxx

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A Recipe for Success

Hello Poppets

Whilst baking with my youngest this morning I had a lovely idea for today’s blog.

What if there was a recipe for success in life and that by combining all the right ingredients you could make your dreams come true? Well, here is Fairy GodMuma’s recipe for success!

Ingredients:

  • 250g Dreams/Goals
  • 125g Personal Responsibility
  • 125g Self Belief
  • 50ml Attitude
  • 3 heaped tbls Motivation
  • 3 heaped tbls of Gratitude
  • 125g Love
  • Sprinkling of Magic

Recipe Instructions:

Firstly, pre heat and ignite your excitement. You are about to create something amazing!

Dreams / Goals: This is probably the most important ingredient in this recipe. As South Pacific said in their song, Happy Talk, “You gotta have a dream, if you dont have a dream, How you gonna have a dream come true?” You need to have a goal in mind to be able to identify when you have succeeded. Carefully decide what Dreams/Goals you are going to pick for this recipe. It could be anything you like. Perhaps you’d like to start with smaller short term goals, and once you see how quickly and easily you can acheive these, you may like to pick out bigger long term goals. It is probably a good idea to write down the dreams you have picked so that you can refer back to them, and see how beautifully they manifested, if using this recipe again. Whatever the goals or dreams you choose, if you follow this recipe, the outcome will be the same: Life Changing.

Personal Responsibility: This is your recipe. You are picking out the ingredients, you are combining them all and the outcome will be completely down to you. No one else. You. If the result isn’t quite as you’d expected, it is not down to any external sources or persons, it is probably because you did not put in enough self belief or perhaps were lacking slightly in motivation. If you want this recipe to work, then you need to believe and accept that you are solely responsible for your own happiness and success.

Self Belief: Before you add self belief into the mix, you must make sure you have prepped it or de-seeded it, to get rid of all the bits that are of no use to us: the negative, self doubting parts. All those niggling thoughts of failing, or not being good enough. Discard them! Instead, note down all your strongest qualities and recall all the times you have acheived something, big or small. Replace those detructive, negative thoughts with useful, positive ones.  “I am capable of acheiving anything!” Keep telling yourself that as you work your self belief into this recipe and know that it is true.

Attitude: It doesn’t matter what obstacles we come up against, it is our attitude towards them that matters. You could give up, throw in the towel and shout, “I quit” when faced with a challenge, or you could acknowledge it, work your way through it and be thankful for the opportunity to learn and come out stronger on the other side. One of my favourite quotes is: ‘It’s not that life has been easy, perfect or exactly as expected. I just choose to be happy and grateful no matter how it turns out’. When you really put things into perspective, life is pretty good. It all depends on your attitude to it. So make sure you work your attitude into every inch of this recipe.

Motivation: Motivation is key to succeed. I have suggested 3 tablespoons of it, but the good thing about motivation is you can never have enough of it, so feel free to heap it in. If you feel that at any time your recipe is not working, or you needs a little boost, add more motivation. Keep some in your ‘magical tool box’ in case of emergencies. 

Gratitude: Again, you can never be too grateful, so heap it into your recipe. It is important to be aware of every stage in the recipe of success and be thankful for every milestone you pass in reaching it. When we are grateful, we attract more things into our lives to be grateful for. When your recipe is complete and you have acheived success, you will be able to really taste the gratitude you put in.

Love: Although the path to success may be hard at times, it should always be exciting and worthwhile. If it is not, then maybe you put the wrong goals and dreams into your mix. Really love and enjoy what you do to make it a success. Surround yourself with love; from people that you love, to items or things that you love. Love yourself! Pour your love into your recipe and know that you are creating the success you desire.

Magic: Open your magic toolbox and sprinkle some magic into your recipe, whatever your magic might be! For me, it would probably be a sprinkling of chocolate!

Combine your ingredients together until they all merge and you feel pleasantly confident with their consistency.

Warm them in your pre ignited fire and knowingly watch them grow and develop. When your spirits have risen, and you can hold the creation firmly in your hands, you have acheived success!

Mmm… I love baking!

Love and blessings,

Fairy GodMuma xxx

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Overcome, believe, acheive!

I have had the pleasure of working with many wonderful yet vulnerable people, full of dreams and aspirations but also full of fear and self doubt. Believing they will get nowhere because of who they are and where they have come from, feeling they have been dealt a bad hand and been let down by their elders and society. It saddens me to hear them say, “People like me don’t get what we want.”

A number of these people have assumed I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth, sent to private school and wrapped in cotton wool because, to them, I am successful. Not quite true… I grew up on a council estate on the outskirts of London with my siblings and my mum, who was a single parent, but worked all hours to make ends meet. I shared a small room with two siblings and we went to the local public school. There was no silver spoon. There was no private school. There was no cotton wool.

There was lots of love though.

We may not have been wealthy or had a big house in a respectable area, but we were rich in other ways. We had all the love and support any child could ask for, and that is worth more than any material item. My parent’s believed wholeheartedly in me, and as a result, I believed in myself.

I could have allowed our perceived limitations to hold me back, but it only spurred me on more. I wanted to be the best I could possibly be, and I wasn’t prepared to let anything stand in my way. It goes without saying that my journey hasn’t been all plain sailing. I’ve encountered many setbacks and obstacles along the way, but they have moulded me into the person I am today, and so I could not be more thankful for them.

So, why am I telling you all this? Quite simply, because, I really want for you to all live happy fulfilled lives! 

It really is a personal choice as to whether you live a life of struggle, disappointments and misery – or whether you live a life of abundance, excitement and bliss. You could continue to blame your current circumstances on your upbringing, your parents, society or mistakes you have made. Alternatively, you can take back control of your life and realise that the only person holding you back or preventing you from blossoming, is you.

I always find it inspiring to look at people who have fought the odds to become successful.

My favourite is J K Rowling, who whilst being unemployed, on welfare, a single mum and living with depression, wrote her Harry Potter novels when she could in various cafes, and is now worth about $1.1billion! Another is Jim Carrey, who had to work eight hours a day as well as attending high school to help out his family who ended up living in a camper van. Despite all of this, he decided to act upon his dreams of becoming a stand up comedian and dropped out of school to do so. He is now one of the highest paid comedians. Both had a dream, and neither let their circumstances stop them from acheiving that.

It is such an empowering feeling when we finally realise that we are responsible for our life as it is, and that only we have the power to change or make it better. If you have been guilty of blaming others for your circumstances, stop right now and get back into the driving seat of your life. No matter who you are or where you come from, you can be or acheive anything you set your mind to!

As Jim Rohn said: “You must take personal responsibility. You can not change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.”

Your destiny awaits you… make it a magical one!

Love and blessings

Fairy GodMuma xxx

P.S. I would like to dedicate this post to the person who inspired me most to overcome, believe and acheive. Thankyou for giving me the gift of life and holding my hand as I walk through it. Love you Mum x 

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The Magic Toolbox

Did you know that you can have up to 70,000 thoughts a day? That’s a whole lot of thinking! It is also a whole lot of creating as our thoughts become things.

Marcus Aurelius once said, “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts; therefore guard accordingly.”

What we think about and focus on most, we attract into our lives, whether that be good or bad. However, a positive thought is much more powerful than a negative one.

This emphasises why it is so important to try and make sure our thoughts are predominantly positive. Perhaps easier said than done when we have so many conscious and subconscious thoughts running through our mind?!

That is why I created myself a magic toolbox. Dont worry, I don’t fly around tugging a heavy cumbersome metal case! It is a hypothetical toolbox which contains memories, thoughts, actions and things that I can tap into to instantly trigger my positive thoughts or give me a wee boost if I need one! I’m going to open and share some of its contents with you now, and perhaps it will inspire you to create your own…

Fairy GodMuma’s Magic Toolbox:

1) Magic Pebble – this is a pebble my son gave me which I pop into my pocket or purse, and each time I grasp it in my hand I think of my children and how amazingly blessed and happy thay make me.

2) Look at photos of my wedding day or other significant events – each time I look at these photos I envision myself reliving the experience and I feel all the wonderful, proud, joyous feelings that went with it.

3) Supercharge Songs – I have created a playlist of songs that inspire and supercharge my emotions. A few of these beautful songs include ‘Kisses and Cake’ by John Powell, ‘Feels like Home’ by Edwina Hayes and “No Other Love” by Chuck Prophet, but you could fill your playlist with songs that are personal and motivational to you.

4) Laughter – Laughter really is the best medicine so I will do anything which sparks a good chuckle. I watch a funny videoclip or recall a joke or memory. If with my children, I will tickle them and let their infectious laughter contaminate me. I laugh from the bottom of my belly and let it completely take over.

5) Favourite place – I take myself off to a place where I feel at peace, and breathe in the air so it fills my lungs with tranquility and bliss. If you’re not able to physically visit your treasured place, look at a picture or visualise yourself there and live the emotions it fills you with.

6) Hug a loved one – hugging not only makes you feel good, but it makes the person you’re hugging feel good (providing they have given you permission to do so!)

7) Count my blessings – I look around at all the wonderful beautiful things in my life and feel heartfelt gratitude for them. If you keep a gratitude journal, you could re-read it or add to it to enhance your thanks.

8) Dance – depending on how brave you are, this may not be one to do whilst riding the bus, or sitting in a meeting at work! However, I love to put on an upbeat song and dance like noone is watching. Even better, I grab my eldest son and swing him around like were auditioning for Strictly Ballroom, usually resulting in us collapsing on the floor in a fit of giggles. A perfect feel good quick fix!

9) Tell someone you love them – text them, ring them, email them or best of all, tell them face to face! If you are unable to tell them, visualise them standing in front of you and picture their response as you say it. Trust me, your love will reach out to them. Expressing your love not only fills you with good vibes, but it will make the recipient feel fantastic too. Recall how amazing it is to hear someone tell you they love you. Take time to think about all the people who love you, and let their love fill you up. No matter what, there is always someone out there who loves you.

10) Chocolate – I always keep a few blocks of chocolate in my magic toolbox! Its my weakness, but you can’t beat a hit of dreamy creamy chocolate to get the endorphins fizzing!

So this is a sample of what you may find in my magic toolbox, and most of them can be accessed and utilised anytime, anywhere and are guaranteed to start a tidal wave of positive thoughts. We would be pushed to monitor every single thought we have each day, but with awareness and practice you will start to automatically acknowledge and eliminate your negative thoughts and replace them with positively fantastic ones. And who doesn’t want to be happy, right?

My question to you tonight, poppets, what would you put in your magic toolbox?

Love and blessings,

Fairy GodMuma xxx

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How to be grateful for EVERY situation

Someone very close to me once said, “You’re always saying thankyou! You say it too much!”

My response, “You can never be too thankful.”

Being grateful is one of lifes greatest and most powerful acts of magic. Not only does it make you feel good to say thanks, but it makes the source of your gratitude happy too. And to top it all off, when you give thanks, the universe responds by sending you lots more situations or objects to be grateful for. It is a guaranteed way to fast track the things you want into your lives, and feels fantastic at the same time!

When people complain: “It’s too early, it’s too late, too hot, too cold, too expensive, too far, such a hassle, so boring or Im tired, I’m so fed up, I’m hungry…” they are focusing on the negative. As I’ve already mentioned in previous posts, by focusing and putting our energy into something, we are telling the Universe that we want more of it. When someone complains, they are therefore attracting more experiences into their life to complain about!

I bet there are a few wide eyes staring at this screen right now wondering “how on Earth can I find the positive in being stuck in traffic because of roadworks?” or “how can I be grateful that its raining again for the third day in a row?” or “what is there to be thankful for when I am bedridden with a rotten cold”

Well, my dears, you must…

Develop an attitude of gratitude!

How about giving thanks for just having a car or means of transport to get to your destination, as well as thanking the hard workers fixing the road under dangerous conditions to ensure we are safe on our journey? How about being grateful for the abundant crops that will be grown and the water sources that will be replenished by the rain, providing us with a constant fresh water supply? (Not to mention how much fun there is to be had splashing in muddy puddles!) Try being grateful that you only have a cold which is curable and will pass in a few days, and be thankful for all other parts of your body that are healthy and well: your heart, lungs, legs, arms, eyes, ears and brain… Be grateful to be alive.

It is completely possible to be thankful under all circumstances.

Whilst studying gratitude in my journey to becoming Fairy GodMuma, I was asked by my tutor to keep a gratitude journal for two weeks, finding all the positive things to be thankful for. During this time I was pregnant and was hospitalised with complications. However, I remained thankful throughout. Grateful for the nurses and doctors working all hours to look after me, grateful for access to necessary medication and medical equipment to monitor my baby and I, grateful to my body for alerting me to the fact something was not right and for working perfectly to fix the problem, grateful to my family for visiting me in hospital and showering me with hope and love, but most of all, grateful for the beautiful miracle of being able to carry our healthy, much loved baby. Even my tutor was stunned at how positive and grateful I remained in such circumstances where most people would have complained until the cows came home! But by looking at the big picture, I was able to see how truly blessed I was and I believe this gratitude helped aid a speedy recovery for both my baby and I.

No matter who we are or what our situation is, there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for.

We all have so much to be grateful for in our lives. Shelter or a roof over our head, a bed to sleep in, clothes to keep us warm, shoes to keep our feet dry, television, telephones, computers with access to the internet, food and appliances to cook the food with, fresh running water, sunshine, rain, the moon to light the way for us at night, access to hospitals and medical treatment, wages or benefits that enable us to afford our blessings, our children, family and friends who we love and who love us, cars or public transport to get us from A-B, legs to walk with, eyes to see, ears to hear, hands to touch and pick up and hug, a voice to speak out or tell someone we love them or laugh, air to breathe… being alive. The list is endless!

So today, poppets, when you feel the starts of a complaint bubbling inside you, I want you to look around at all the positives instead, count your blessings and give heartfelt thanks for them.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, or more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” – Melody Beattie

Thank you for reading…

Love and blessings,

Fairy GodMuma xxx

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