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Banish those negative critters

on August 4, 2012

How are you feeling right now? Even though you may be consciously telling yourself that you are happy and calm, your subconscious thoughts may be telling another story!

Your emotions are an honest guideline as to what thoughts you are really putting out there. You can shout out from the rooftops, “I am happy!” but if deep down you are feeling sad or angry, then that is what you will really be projecting. None of us want to have negative emotions simmering away inside of us; attracting more negative experiences and affecting our chances of living a happy life.

You are not your emotions, just like you are not your behaviour. Your emotions are temporary feelings,which if allowed to, will dwell within us and thrive on the attention and focus you give to them. They will battle with and drive away your positive emotions if you let them. But they are not who you are. You are not an angry woman or a sad man. You are a wonderful person who feels angry or sad at that particular time and you are completely entitled to experience those emotions! In fact, these emotions could teach us a thing or two. But dont let them overpower you. Embrace them and then send them on their way, otherwise they could become your everyday thinking or feeling.

Find those negative critters and show them whos boss! I have a fun way which has helped me gain control back over my emotions, minimise and wave goodbye to my negative critters. It is quite empowering and insightful at the same time, and also a lovely way to introduce children to facing their emotions. I’d love to share it with you…


When you feel a critter niggling inside of you, sit down somewhere quiet if you can and ask yourself why that negative emotion is there. What has caused it? Acknowledge the answers and if it helps, say them out loud: “I am angry because…” or “I am anxious because…”

Next, and I find this the fun part, try to visualise the emotion. What shape is it, size, colour or texture? Is it a shape, or a being, an object or an animal? I picture anxiety as a small round blue or red ball of prickles, with a large frown and menacing teeth, that jitters around excitedly in the palm of my hand. Worry, to me, is a large sloth like creature that drapes itself heavily over my shoulders, weighing me down, and who speaks in a slow, melancholy voice. J K Rowling has stated that the inspiration for the life draining dementors in her Harry Potter novels were as a result of a bout of depression she had experienced. However you visualise the emotions you experience, own that image.

Can you hold the emotion in your hand or sit it next to you? Look the emotion in the eye. This is important as it separates you from this emotion and you will hopefully no longer see it as part of you.

“Analysis gave me great freedom of emotions and fantastic confidence. I felt I had served my time as a puppet” – Hedy Lamarr

Is the emotion trying to say anything to you? If it is, listen to what it has to say. If you have any burning questions… ask it. You may be surprised at what you could learn from this emotion. You may even wish to thank the emotion for what it has taught you.

“A clear understanding of negative emotions dismisses them” – Vernon Howard

By now you should already feel a whole lot more positive and as though a weight has been lifted. You may notice the emotion gradually becoming smaller and smaller as its significance decreases. Keep it with you, in your hand, or sitting next to you, and listen to all it may have to say, even embrace it, until it finally disappears.

And then breathe in deeply and fill the space where the negative critter was hiding with wonderful glowing positive thoughts.

Now doesn’t that feel better!


When we acknowledge an emotion rather than fighting it, or hiding it away, we will eventually leave no room in ourselves for that negative emotion to dwell. This is when we will start to see and feel real magic happening in our lives.

I finish on a quote from Harry Potter’s teacher, Rubus Lupin. Whilst teaching Harry a spell called a Patronus to make the Dementor’s disappear, Lupin stated: “A patronus is a kind of positive force, and for the wizard who can conjure one, it works something like a shield.” He continued, “In order for it to work, you need to think of a memory. Not just any memory, a very happy memory, a very powerful memory. Allow it to fill you up… lose yourself in it.”

Have a positively splendid day, poppets.

Love and blessings,

Fairy GodMuma xxx


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