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Live for Now!

on August 8, 2012
“What day is it?”
“It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
“My favorite day,” said Pooh.
― A. A. Milne
A few days ago the Fairy GodMuma household woke up to find they had been visited by the lurgy overnight. Temperatures all round and lots of calpol was in order. Even for mum and dad!
It would have been very easy for me to slip into a negative mindset of self pity and wallowing, “Oh woe is me!”  when my son asked me if I could play with him. Quite frankly I just wanted to go back to bed! Instead, I observed him playing happily, in his own little world, despite his obvious red swollen throat and temperature. I envied his resilience and wanted to climb into his World so I too could see past my physical feelings as he did. It is then I remembered that it is our own choice how we react to any challenge we are faced. So I chose to react positively, and climbed on the floor next to my son where together we used our imagination to find fun, quiet things to do to keep our minds occupied and our spirits high!
I admire childrens’ ability to bounce back from minor setbacks or illness. Despite my son being and feeling quite poorly, he did not let this stop him from making the most of his day. His determined positivity in all circumstances inspires me. This is a quality the majority of us adults seem to lose as the years pass. I have watched how content and unaffected children are in regards to a lot of situations or experiences, that as adults we would find highly stressful, worrying or even depressing. Perhaps this carefree attitude exists because children have little or no responsibilities in terms of their future. They haven’t yet learned to ponder over the past or have regrets, and although excited about the future, they aren’t obsessed with it. Children live for the now. The present is all that matters and very little stands in the way of them enjoying it to the max.
Unfortunately though, as most of us grow older, we gradually lost this ability to live in the moment. We may experience hurt from a loved one, causing us to mistrust others or question peoples motives. We may also experience disappointment, all of which overtime encourages us to prepare for the worst.  Add to all this important issues such as jobs, mortgages, bills, childcare, health and relationships to manage and organise. We don’t possibly have time to be ill, let alone live in the moment! Research has shown that most of us spend 50 percent of our waking hours focusing on things other than that which we are doing at that time. It has also shown that such mind wandering can make us unhappy. Unfortunately, our long term challenges or responsibilities do tend to flog our minds, leaving little or no time for trivial things such as play (and play is not just restricted to kids, every adult should allow time for themselves to have fun and pursue dreams).  
What would really happen if you did push your to do list to one side, for even a short while, to invest in some quality, fun you time? What would happen if you let go of the past and the future, and focused on the now? Would your whole world crumble and fall down around you? Highly unlikely. Every day spent regretting events in our past, or worrying about things in our future, is a day wasted. Dont waste today worrying about tomorrow.
“The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it” ― Thomas S Monson
Here are a few things Fairy GodMuma likes to do to bring myself back to the now – and really enjoy it. Perhaps they may help you too:
– Switch off your tv, mobile or telephone and reduce distractions so you can just really enjoy the moment for all it is
– Breathe! Take a deep breath in and let it inflate down into your lungs and your belly. Hold for a few seconds and then slowly let the air out. Do this a few times at least to centre you and bring you back to the present moment 
– Play with your children – and I mean, really play with them. Get on the floor, tiggle them, cuddle them and immerse yourself into their World
– Go for a walk and really take in everything around you; things that you would probably take for granted or let pass you by. Breathe deeply and feel the air filling your lungs and melting any future worries away. If you are unable to get out,  look out of the window or even around the room you are in and be grateful for all you see and all that is
– Do something that excites you, what ever that may be. If you are passionate about it and it makes you feel good, then take a small amount of time out to do it
– Listen to a favourite song. Find somewhere quiet, sit or lay down and just listen to a favourite song. Hear every note, every instrument and feel the emotion in every word. Remind yourself why it is a favourite of yours
– Have a relaxing bath. Fill it with bubbles, surround it with candles and pamper yourself silly. You deserve it!
– Dance like noone is watching! I have said it before and I will probably say it again, but this is a fantastic way to let go of your inhibitions and really enjoy yourself. Put on your favourite song and go for it
– Sing. Even if you feel you can’t sing! This is such a mood booster and can really bring you back to the ‘now’.
– Seize this moment and smile, even laugh out loud, but make it worthwhile.
“Be present in all things and thankful for all things” – Maya Angelou
Once again, I am so thankful for my children for teaching me how to live with reckless abandonment, to run, jump, play, laugh and love. We should all take a moment to learn from the beautiful little angels that are children, and switch off from serious mode every now and then, to allow ourselves to be consumed by the present – and our enjoyment for life!
Happy Dancing…
Love and Blessings,
Fairy GodMuma xxx

All that matters is the here and now…


One response to “Live for Now!

  1. […] So, you may have cheated on someone and broken their heart many years ago. Or perhaps you lied to someone in order to get your own way. Does this make you a bad person? No. We all make mistakes, but if we view them as an opportunity to learn and grow, then they have served us well. Stop living in your past. It does not define you and you can not change it. All that matters is the present, and who you are now. I discuss this more in my post “Live for Now” https://fairygodmuma.wordpress.com/2012/08/08/live-for-now/ […]

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